tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6321329750397667796.post8720573470208671268..comments2024-03-26T19:47:09.310+08:00Comments on Lao Ren Cha - 老人茶: Tai TaiJenna Lynn Codyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04032277820150000198noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6321329750397667796.post-88321043774454783712011-02-09T11:50:41.436+08:002011-02-09T11:50:41.436+08:00You are wrong, but thanks for playing the Assumpti...You are wrong, but thanks for playing the Assumption Game. If my name were easy and nice-sounding, and my husband's name long and convoluted I woukd not have changed it. If it matters, my husband would have been more likely to consider changing his name if he did not like the one he already had. We discussed it at length - it was not so much about "my name is MINE" as "I like Jenna Lynn Codyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032277820150000198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6321329750397667796.post-51311821346230415332011-02-09T02:10:08.545+08:002011-02-09T02:10:08.545+08:00If you disliked your birth surname so much, why di...If you disliked your birth surname so much, why didn't you change it before? I have a feeling that if the last names had been reversed, you'd have come up with a rationalization for taking your husband's long Polish name.<br /><br />"We get a choice between a father's name and a husband's"<br />Um, no. To use your logic, you get a choice between your father's Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6321329750397667796.post-17552330218380124752010-12-21T15:31:17.909+08:002010-12-21T15:31:17.909+08:00I wanted to add that if one of those "you hav...I wanted to add that if one of those "you have to take my name!" men out there meets and marries a woman who agrees with him, that's actually fine with me. I don't agree with it personally but my personal preferences are not the Platonic Ideal of all preferences. People are free to disagree and live their lives as such.<br /><br />It's when someone thinks that way and Jenna Lynn Codyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032277820150000198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6321329750397667796.post-65129200734506423012010-12-21T15:26:57.094+08:002010-12-21T15:26:57.094+08:00catherine - I hear ya on the judgment back home! ...catherine - I hear ya on the judgment back home! It's amazing that we as an American society still put up with men insisting that their wives change their name. I have no problem with a woman choosing to do so, and no problem with a woman compromising if it's not that important to her, but I have a *huge* problem with men who insist on it, as though they have any say (even as a spouse) Jenna Lynn Codyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032277820150000198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6321329750397667796.post-24601630998248858822010-12-21T10:53:34.003+08:002010-12-21T10:53:34.003+08:00I hyphenated my name. Legally. I changed it on v...I hyphenated my name. Legally. I changed it on vital documents (basically, on my W2s, my health insurance, and with the DMV ... still haven't done Social Security, and I'm not sure I'll bother), but I've socially and professionally been going by my old name.<br /><br />I always said I would never change my name. I was ADAMANT about it. I changed my last name, by choice, to my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6321329750397667796.post-3633526555829137382010-12-21T01:04:48.985+08:002010-12-21T01:04:48.985+08:00Eh ... maybe that wife-doesn't-change-name thi...Eh ... maybe that wife-doesn't-change-name thing has more to do with the naming taboo?blobOfNeuronsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6321329750397667796.post-37222607615493398742010-12-20T22:59:22.236+08:002010-12-20T22:59:22.236+08:00What a great post! I've been meaning to write ...What a great post! I've been meaning to write about this topic for a while. I got some crap for not changing my name when I got married from men (all of whom were American, btw), which I thought was stunning because a) it's none of their goddamn business and b) I grew up surrounded by couples who had different last names. <br /><br />I didn't change my name for feminist and cultural Catherine Shuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06759711296632260503noreply@blogger.com